Manipulations – an inborn gift in children that gives them full control of parents that can turn them into spoiled kids. When this little angel wants something, there is no way that a kid is not getting it. It is difficult to withstand, so parents either comply or yell at children, which results in a bad mood for both parties.
Dear parents, there are more ways you can deal with a spoiled child than you can think!
Parents try to avoid temper tantrums in public places. When a child yells, and everyone turns around, there is nothing more you want to do than become invisible.
As a result, you do what your child wants (even if you need to buy the baby an expensive toy or buy loads of candies). Occasional manipulations become regular in a blink of an eye. Therefore, find strength and patience to deal with this matter.
If you think that your child gives you a hard time, do not worry, the other 90% of parents can relate. Most children use tears and tantrums as their weapon. Children feel your weaknesses, the things and situations they can act on.
As a result, some parents buy a toy for a spoiled child to avoid the public eye, some because they love their kids too much, and other parents because they do not want to look poor or a cheapskate.
HOW TO WITHSTAND MANIPULATIONS?
Stand your ground. Show your child that you are not afraid of tears, tantrums, and blackmailing. After some time, a child will understand that not only is it useless, it does not show them from their best side.
Try to notice patterns before it is too late. Pay attention to the times when a child gets something with the help of tears and tantrums.
Do not scold a kid for crying. Before a child has started to cry its eyes out, talk to them. Find out the source of the problem and exactly what the child wants. If a talk does not go well, then just tell them what the punishment will be (no cartoons, no playing with friends, etc.) What you really need to show is that YOU make the final decision.
Do not ignore them! By doing this, a child might think that you simply are indifferent to what they feel and think. This can lead to a totally different number of problems (anger, hurt, and aggression).
Set some rules. There are things they can and cannot do. Pay attention to their behavior, to whether they actually listen to what you say, and if they stick to these tiny regulations. You do not have to forbid them everything, just draw some lines of what is acceptable and unacceptable.
As a parent, you also have to follow these rules and admit it when you are wrong.
Letting things slide and hoping these behaviors will magically disappear and that your spoiled child will grow out of them is the wrong thought process. One day, things may go too far, and you will have no control over a child. Before it is too late, be involved, and take action.
Everyone knows that a spoiled child is a problematic person in the future. However, not every parent wants to admit to spoiling a child.
Here are the main characteristics of a spoiled kid:
- Violation of discipline.
- Fulfilling a child’s every wish.
- No limits to what is permitted.
- The child is not held responsible for its actions.
- The child gets presents from parents every day.
- A child demands the same food every day and does not want to follow a timetable.
- The child has temper tantrums at every occasion.
HOW TO HANDLE A SPOILED CHILD
1) Create a timetable
A timetable is a key to discipline a spoiled child. By setting some tasks which a child has to perform daily (brushing teeth, making the bed in the morning, etc.), you can help your kid to become more disciplined.
This will influence its personality and be a helpful trait of character in the future. It will be difficult in the beginning, but later, you will see that a child does these things without your reminder.
2) Sharing household chores
Do not do everything yourself but also do not give all of the chores to a kid. Share chores, and soon you will see that the child is doing not only the things you told it to do but also the things that need to be done.
A sound mind is a sound body. Spoiled children are usually picky about their food as they prefer sweets and fast food to healthy food. This leads to health problems. Therefore, make sure to instill a habit of having healthy food.
Not only will it strengthen their body, but it will also stay as a useful habit throughout their whole life. It is much easier to correct eating habits at a young age rather than struggling with this matter at a mature age.
4) Cut down on time for gadgets
Minimize the time children spend in front of the TV, phone, or other gadgets. These things do not really have the best influence on children. Therefore, reduce their time online or eliminate it altogether.
5) Talk to your child
Remember that you are the role model for your child. Take an interest in what they like, talk to them about these things, about yourself. Build a connection. Remember that deeds speak louder than words.
The responsibility for a child’s upbringing is a concern of each parent. Keep in mind that it is difficult, and therefore, mistakes are a common thing. However, make sure to detect these mistakes and do better next time.
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